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Mapping our nervous system in a scene in the way we have in this series is the start of a journey of curiosity. This self-knowledge and self-inquiry will hopefully lend your scenes a new edge to explore, and a new way to think about yourself and your kinks.
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We go into a kink scene with the intention of playing with elements of the sympathetic nervous system: a little bit of fear, an elevated heart-rate, intense focus. Or maybe playing with elements of dorsal vagal: disconnection, a lowered heart-rate, floaty feelings.
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Kink often isn’t about entering one state, but about intentionally moving between states while maintaining connection. Looking at the descriptions of the different nervous system states, ask yourself, Where am I during a scene that I’m enjoying?