trauma
Somatic healing can help us process trauma that has become stuck in the body. It can bring us back to the body. This way, we can slowly, gently, move away from being stuck in survival and move towards living in a state of nervous system regulation.
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Excitement can show up in the body as an elevated heart-rate; as short, shallow breathing. But so can anxiety and anger. The nervous system of a trauma survivor may become activated through excitement but this very activation becomes triggering and is read as fear, anxiety or danger.
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Once we step away from the Freud-inspired trope of fancying your mum or a compulsion to relive something awful that happened to you, we can see a much more beautifully complex relationship between trauma and kink.